Some people assume that it is easy to be a stay-at-home mom. You have probably quickly learned that it is definitely a challenge. Not only is parenting as exhausting as it is rewarding, it can be difficult to adjust to the lifestyle. This is especially true if you are used to working or always being on the go. All of a sudden looking at the same walls all day can be as difficult as the actual parenting process. These tips should help with your adjustment.
Connect with Other Moms
Fair enough, you may be thinking you have also nothing in common with other moms in your neighborhood. You do not have to become best friends with everyone or even involve yourself with local gossip, but you should make a connection with them. Sometimes you just need to have an adult conversation with someone, or you may need advice or tips dealing with a concern. You never know when you will need an emergency babysitter or just someone to vent to. No one understands your frustrations better than another mom in your same situation.
Do Not Hide Your Exhaustion
Some stay-at-home moms feel as though they have to appear to have it together. They do not want others to know they have absolutely no idea what they are doing and that they have not slept in days. You do not have to pretend everything is smooth sailing. Every mother is new at the process once. They all know those fashionable sunglasses and fedora you are wearing to the super market are hiding your bloodshot eyes and the oily hair you have not had time to wash in days. Embrace your new motherhood status and let others give you helpful tips, especially those who have been through it a few times.
Do Not Expect a Thank You
Whether you are used to people at work thanking you for your efforts, or you thrive on positive performance reviews, you can kiss this goodbye. Motherhood often feels like a fight for survival. Just getting through the day without a breakdown can be a challenge; especially on no sleep. No one will thank you or tell you what a great job you are doing, but you will have those moments where you feel appreciated, your heart melts, and this will soon become more than enough.
Take a Break
You cannot clean all day long. It does not matter how many times you pick up toys, there will be more. You can do laundry every day and there is always going to be more. You need a limit. You do not have to be an energizer bunny from the time you wake up until you go to sleep. It is okay to take your tea out on the patio and enjoy the fresh air. New moms often fall into the trap where they feel they have to constantly be doing something productive. You are still breathing; sometimes that is enough!
Know Your Mouth
Anyone who disregards the value and importance of a stay-at-home mom has never been one. No one can understand how hard and exhausting it can be until they experience it firsthand. Your job is extremely valuable and you do not need a paycheck to measure what you are worth. Never feel as though you are not contributing because you are not paying bills.
Welcome the Process
There are always going to be new challenges in parenting. Whether it is potty training or having the strength to let go of the back of that bike so your child can balance on their own, it never gets easier. However, with each challenge and obstacle you get through, there is a sense of accomplishment that will keep you pushing forward.